TEST for TNOA2139 - Keeping sex life strong as you get older

Reviewed by: Dr Daniella(8th May 2024)
Older man and woman embracing in greenhouse

Men who go through prostate cancer tend to be older, and also tend to have older partners. Sex in older age may be different, but it’s just as important (and can be just as enjoyable!) as when you were younger.

What happens to us sexually as we age?

Researchers at the University of Chicago studied what happens to sexuality as people age. They interviewed several thousand men and women over age 40 and found:

  1. Sexual activity declines with age. However, even though sex drive for men and women can decline with age, many people continue to be sexually active into their 90s.

  2. People who are sexually active tend to be healthier. Does sexual activity make people healthier? Or do healthier people have more sex? We don’t know for sure, but these things certainly seem to go together.

What kinds of sexual problems can older adults face, especially after prostate cancer?

People in middle and older age face some unique challenges when it comes to sex, especially if they’ve undergone treatment for prostate cancer.

Aging naturally leads to some changes that can impact your sexual function. It can also impact sexual desire and ability to perform. For example:

  1. 37% of older men have trouble keeping an erection

  2. 43% of older women have a lack of interest in sex

  3. 17% of older women have pain during vaginal entry

Needing more time to get an erection as you get older

Most older men need more time to get an erection, even if they haven’t been treated for prostate cancer. If this is you, don’t worry. It’s pretty normal. What used to take only a few seconds at a younger age, now can take 10 to 15 minutes for an older man.

Older men will also need more time after sex before they can get another erection. For example, in men over 50, it can take up to 24 hours after sex to be able to have another erection.